Monday, September 14, 2009

Birthing Day, Divorce Day

Today is Baby Charlie's real birth-ing Day!!! Hannah is at the hospitla and I am headed up there shortly...first a stop at Subway for Jon!!! Maybe some Gerbera daisies for Hannah who loves them too.....................
This is also a tragically sad day. Caleb home from leave for not even a whole week has had his heart crushed by a wife who no longer wants to be his wife, who has not been living for quite some time, as his wife. His arrival on "her scene" almost dampered her plans; her lies to get him out of her way were quickly discovered, a few words were exchanged, mostly she just wanted him gone. Now he is. She is in her little apartment and Caleb is here. As we rejoice with Hannah and Jon, we are grieivng with Caleb who is filing documents to end his barely two year old marriage. Broken hearted, he has to also look down the road to not being distracted by these issues as he goes back to war. As much as I hate divorce, I hate the thought of my son "missing something critical" by being distracted while on the battle field, and coming home ............under a flag. My prayers are that God will comfort him as he has never been comforted before, that God will direct him up out of this pit, and cause Caleb to draw closer to his Lord than he ever has.....that God will make beauty out of this ugly pile of ashes. My prayers for my daughter in law, who has never made herself a part of this family at all, will not sense hatred or bitterness from us. She has taken me off her Face book list of friends, but I wrote her a message anyhow. I will probably also send it to her email address because I want her to read my words to her. I want her to know that as disappointed as I am in this situation, I love her, have always loved her and want God's best for her, and I hope that she will choose God's best for her in days and weeks to come.
When people used to see me with young Joshua beside me and pushing two shopping carts in the Commissary back in our active duty military days: my carts filled with 4 small children and a lot of groceries, I would often hear,"Oh I don't know how you DO it!!" THOSE, dear readers were the EASY DAYS!!!!!!!!!!! God has grown my faith and my relationship with Himself over the young chld years to the teen and adult child years (OK and back for round 2 with the young child years: we must have done "ok" for God to give us another batch of blessings to raise!!) to where I can stand in this storm and KNOW that my hope is built on nothing less than Jesus' blood and righteousness to quote one old hymn and IT IS WELL WITH MY SOUL to quote another. How I pray that my faith , shared and taught has been caught and has and will take strong root in each of my children. My header verse is so precious to me, especially today: "All your children shall be taught of the Lord and GREAT will be the peace of you children!!" Isaiah 45:13
Hannah just called. Her water has broken on its own, its clear, she's 3 and thin (you ladies know what all that is!! ) and I am off to the hospital to become a Gramma!!!!!!!!!

9 comments:

Kat said...

How exciting and how devastating. You are in our prayers with praise at the newest edition and for comfort for your son.

Bingaling said...

So excited for you to be a Grandma, Linda! What a wonderful day!!

And I am so sorry to hear the news about Caleb and his wife. How terribly tragic. Praying for Caleb as he deals with this (so much for two weeks of R&R, huh??)...and praying that you know just what to say and do to help him through this.
Chanda

Jason and Erin said...

Whoo-hoo! Go grandma! What a wonderful day! So sorry for Caleb, though. Divorce is devastating, but he has a brilliant support system, and he will be ok. Praying for your family.

Emily said...

I am excited for your newest blessing! I am sad for your loss! May God grant peace in your home.

Laurel said...

Blessings to you as you celebrate this birth ... and HUGE Prayers, as you walk through Caleb's grief with him.

Yes ... those small child years are definitely easier than walking through the young adult years with our "kids". I, too, have a foot in both places and it's HARD.

Laurel
mama of 13

Kelli said...

What a day! Rejoicing with you in your grandchild's birth, and I send my blessings to Caleb during this terrible time...I've been there and done that. God is faithful. <3

Michelle Riggs said...

I am so sorry. Brent was a drill sergeant. Unfortunately this is all too common.

I will be praying for your whole family. Praise God you have wonderful things happening in the midst of this sadness.

love2bmom said...

Love to you all my friend!!

Ranee said...

How unfair for Caleb that his two weeks rest are being spent like this. Hopefully only good things are to come for him in the future.